To me, neuro-affirming practice and care means recognising and respecting the diversity of all human neurotypes, as well as the differences in lived experiences and the ways neurotypes influence daily life. It means not assuming that all neurodivergent individuals are the same, but instead honouring each person’s unique experience.

Neuro-affirming care also involves acknowledging the impacts of trauma, privilege, and cultural context. I recognise that for some, practices like masking are not a choice but a necessary tool for survival.

In my neuro-affirming practice, I focus on working with each individual’s neurotype and natural way of being in the world, rather than trying to change or "fix" them. I support parents in understanding their child's behaviour as a form of communication, moving away from a behaviourist lens toward one of connection and compassion.

I also acknowledge that parents themselves may be neurodivergent, carrying trauma, or experiencing burnout. I strive to create a safe, nonjudgmental space where parents can share their experiences and feelings, knowing they are met with understanding and support.

Screen use, particularly during times of burnout, can provoke significant conflict for parents. Much of the messaging they receive emphasises that screen time is harmful to a child's brain development and mental health. However, I view screen use as a valuable, and often necessary, tool for children and young people experiencing burnout.

I believe the key is to understand the purpose behind the screen use rather than focusing solely on the amount of time spent in front of a screen. Screens provide access to special interests, offer familiar and comforting games, movies, or television shows, and present opportunities for learning new skills. They also enable children to engage with the outside world in a way that feels safe and within their control. When shared with a parent, screen time can create a low-demand, connected environment that is essential for building trust. 

Screen use can also offer much-needed respite for caregivers, especially when other forms of rest or support are hard to access. I recognise that screen use, particularly for teenagers, can be more complex, especially when it involves social media or exposure to inappropriate content. I also acknowledge that for some children, screens may be overstimulating or dysregulating. No two individuals are the same.

Rather than taking a one-size-fits-all approach, I support my clients in exploring what screen use looks like for their unique child and family. Together, we work toward finding a balanced, values-aligned approach that supports both the child’s needs and the overall well-being of the family.